As soon as your baby is born, the inevitable question arises: Who does he or she look like? Even strangers in the supermarket will look at you, and then your baby, trying to match physical traits. Maybe your baby has Grampy's blue eyes and Grandma's gregarious personality. Besides genes, one of the things you share is your family history. So help your child learn about the family by creating a family tree.
You don't need to trace your family back to William the Conqueror or Charlemagne. Start with a smaller project, one that can be accomplished between reading childcare books and changing diapers. With a little sleuthing, you can create a four-generation pedigree chart to put with your baby's keepsakes.
Adoptive couples can also get in on the ancestor hunt and chart their families. Although you and your child don't share the same genes, he or she is part of your family--and we are products of our environment, too. You could also collect all the information from your baby's adoption in case he or she decides to look for birth parents.
Begin your child's family tree by downloading a pedigree chart (see sidebar for link). Your child's name goes in the number one spot, along with birth date and place. Father's name and dates go in the number two spot, and Mother's in number three. As your chart branches out, you'll notice two things: males are even numbers and females are odd numbers; and your child's paternal ancestors are on top, maternal on bottom. At first, it will be as simple as filling in the blanks. After all, you know when your baby was born and when you married. One of the first rules of genealogy is to work from the known to the unknown, verifying facts along the way.
Home Sources
So far, it's easy. But the further back in time you go, the less information you know. That's where you need to check your home sources and ask your relatives questions. Tucked away in a drawer someplace, maybe you (or your family) have important papers, like birth certificates, marriage licenses, family mementos, newspaper clippings, photographs, school report cards, old letters, address books, yearbooks, wedding albums, and baby books. Find out if great-aunt Ruth owns the family Bible, and ask your grandfather to tell stories of his parents. All of these sources may provide genealogical information.
As you gather your facts, it's important to write down your sources. You may ask why, since it's only for your child, but you may come across conflicting data. Then you'll need to determine which one is the better source. For instance, when I visited a cemetery, I found a death date disagreed with the actual death certificate. In this case, the death certificate carried more weight, since it was written at the time of death or shortly thereafter. The headstone, however, could have been chiseled years later, with dates based on faulty memories. It's a good idea to keep a file (or many files) of your sources, from notes of your interview with great-uncle Harry to obituaries to copies of marriage certificates. These files will become part of your family treasures.
Internet Sources
Say you've mined all the home sources, filled in some blanks on your pedigree chart, but you don't know when your grandmother died, when your grandfather was born, or when they married. Here's where you move from the known to the unknown. With Internet access, you can find some information online, from scanned records, record transcriptions, and indexes to queries and extensive family trees. Some material is freely available, such as data from FamilySearch, RootsWeb, and the USGenWeb Project. Others charge a membership fee for searches, such as Ancestry.com and HeritageQuest.com.
The trick is to use these resources to help you delve into the actual records. The International Genealogical Index (IGI) at the FamilySearch site, for example, is a mix of both extracted and compiled data. Extracted data serve as an index to the actual records, although some details from the actual records may not be in the database. Marriage records after 1854 in Scotland, for instance, included the bride and groom's parents' names, but the IGI entries don't include them. You still need to go to the actual record to confirm that this couple is related to you. Lucky for Scottish researchers, Scotlandspeople.gov.uk has scanned many of their birth, marriage, death, and census records so you can print and download them for a nominal fee.
Like indexes and extracted records, compiled data and trees are useful for clues. Be aware, however, that there are many people who are collectors instead of researchers, busy building the biggest database of so-called relatives rather than carefully fact checking before adding people to their trees. With the Internet, mistakes get reproduced many times over.
It may take more time to order vital records, peruse a census microfilm, visit a cemetery, and read county biographies, but you'll have confirmation that that person really does fit on your family tree.
Finding the Answers
Doing an online search of the Social Security Death Index should help you find your grandmother's death date. The SSDI gives birth and death dates for millions of people, mostly from the 1960s on, but also as early as 1937. Not everyone is in the database, but it's always the best place to look first. With the date in hand, you can go to VitalChek to order the actual death certificate. The death certificate may include birth date, parents' names, spouse's name, occupation, address, cause of death, cemetery name, and funeral director's name---all depending on what information was required by the state.
Besides the death certificate, you may want to check for obituaries, cemetery records, and funeral records. By going to the USGenWeb site for the state and county, you may find leads to help you get these unofficial but often very revealing records. Sometimes obituaries will give names of parents and children (which is particularly helpful with married women's names), occupation, membership in societies, and a short biography.
For your grandfather's birth, you also can check the SSDI. Other sources include headstones, family Bibles, Social Security applications, obituaries, and passports. Follow up by ordering the birth certificate. It will help you go back another generation by naming his parents. Marriages are a little trickier to pinpoint, unless you have a wedding album, photo, or wedding invitation that include a date. Some obituaries may mention how long a couple was married. Another option is to estimate a date two years earlier than the oldest child or at the average age for marriage, say 25 for grooms and 22 for brides. Then search the statewide marriage index or give a date range for the record clerk to search for the actual birth certificate. For more help with doing genealogy, check out the how-to web sites in the sidebar.
Now, when my one-year-old daughter catches me on the computer doing genealogy, I tell her I'm busy working on my family tree and she can work on Daddy's. She smiles and grabs for the keyboard.
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